Gloria's Oversexed Mind

By Mithras Invicti

This is very funny:

And the explanation: New York Dominatrix and Fitness Instructor Miss "Victoria" puts her overweight clients through an aerobic workout that she has devised named Slavercize. As her willing and submissive 'slaves' they must perform push-ups, sit-ups, jumping jacks and 'play fetch' dressed in latex and threatened with a whip.

A long time ago, Bally Fitness came out with their Pain in the Butt workout, which had a commercial with a dommy-looking woman and the sound of whipcracks.

(Via this girl.)

November 30, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sexual Health | Permalink | Comments (0)

(Thanks again to Mike. Seriously, dude, you need a blog!)

November 30, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (0)

Just received an update from Pamm about the Lloyd E.Russell 2008 Grant Program. If you're thinking of applying, the time has arrived! Go their site to grab the form so you're ready to submit when they begin accepting applications for review in January.

It's happening at last!

The information regarding the 2008 Grant Program is now available!

Please access the website, http://www.lerfoundation.org/, for all the details.

Please remember to read ALL of the FAQ page BEFORE completing your application. NO applications will be accepted before January 1, 2008.

For questions, you may contact the foundation at: lerfoundation@gmail.com

November 30, 2007 in Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (0)

Do you ever feel like this?

(Thanks to Mike for forwarding this.)

November 30, 2007 in Sexual Beauty | Permalink | Comments (0)

OK, how could I fail to include this one from the great Van? Particularly since, for most of my life, people have insisted on singing it to me when first learning my name? Here's Mr. Morrison performing his classic with another legend, John Lee Hooker.

November 29, 2007 in Post-Modern Pop Culture | Permalink | Comments (0)

Thought I'd end the day on a musical note. Or two. Couple of clips from YouTube of Van Morrison, who'se my favorite singer/composer/music poet of ALL TIME. This is a clip from a festival at Montreux about 10 years ago. Quality isn't great but the performance makes me shiver.

November 29, 2007 in Post-Modern Pop Culture | Permalink | Comments (1)

One of my beloved clients sent me this evocative poem she wrote about the process of therapy. I am so touched that she dedicated to me. With her permission, I'm sharing it here. I'm giving her the poetic pseudonym CyL to protect her pervy identity.

Born Again
--for Gloria

Nicodemus asked, “ is it possible for a man to enter his mother’s womb and be born again?”

It matters not that I have walked this earth some forty plus years now.
That I have known joy and pain, plenty and want.
That I have rested the rest of the peaceable and hunkered in fear at the blast of the bomb.
That I was born; enfleshed, grew, matured and birthed children of my own.
That I have loved and laughed and sorrowed and sobbed.
That I have delighted in the pleasures of body and soul; and languished,
same body and soul imprisoned in dank dungeons.
That my mind has been illuminated yet still strains against void.

I have only now been truly born.
I have slid screaming and slimy with the blood of travail into the hands of my Midwife,
Limbs spastic, flailing weakly, free from my constricting, confining cocoon,
Body arching protesting against the chill of self-realization.
As the light of the new world around me crystallizes in my brain
I am awash in sensation.
My spirit leaps within me gasping in release.
I have no choice, I want no choice.
I suck in vigorously filling my lungs full of life possibility.

--CyL, November 17, 2007

November 29, 2007 in Autobiographical Urges | Permalink | Comments (1)

From my friends at cinekink.

FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE

Leather Archives and Museum Presents Kinky Film Festival - "CineKink: Chicago"

CineKink: Chicago makes its brazen appearance November 29 - December 1, 2007, featuring a three-night run of films and videos that celebrate and explore a wide diversity of sexuality.

A touring version of "the really alternative film festival" held annually in New York, the event will be presented by the Leather Archives & Museum in conjunction with CineKink, an organization dedicated to the recognition and encouragement of sex-positive and kink-friendly depictions in film and television. Works presented at CineKink: Chicago will range from documentary to drama, mildly spicy to quite provocative - and everything in between.

Among the CineKink: Chicago headliners, first up, on Thursday, November 29 at 7 PM, is "Vice and Consent," a documentary visit with such prominent, long-standing members of the BDSM community as Midori, Jay Wiseman and Cleo Dubois, along with "The Line Between," from Chicago filmmaker, Jonathan Marten. Then, at 9 PM, the drama "Going Under" traces the relationship of a married psychotherapist and a professional dominatrix he's been frequenting.

On Friday, November 30 at 7:00 PM, it's "Power Plays," short works that probe, prod and play with the dynamics of sexual power and fantasy, including work by local artist Usama Alshaibi, followed at 9:00 PM by "Passion Plays," a collection of erotic, sometimes explicit pieces that dance along the supposed boundary of art and pornography, including the banned-in-Australia documentary, "Damon and Hunter."

On Saturday, December 1 at 6:00 PM, "Liberty in Restraint" follows photographer Noel Graydon on a provocative journey into the world of fetish and S/M. And the festival wraps everything up at a 8:00 PM with a screening of the "Best of CineKink," a program of award-winning shorts deemed the best of the festival's most recent NYC appearance.

November 29 - 7 pm/Vice & Consent (w/The Line Between)
November 29 - 9 pm/Going Under
November 30 - 7 pm/Power Plays
November 30 - 9 pm/Passion Plays
December 1 - 6 pm/Liberty in Restraint
December 1 - 8 pm/The Best of CineKink

Taking place at the Leather Archives and Museum (6418 N. Greenview Avenue), tickets are $10/door, $8/advance for general admission; $8 door, $5/advance for students, seniors and LA&M members. Discounted festival passes, covering admission to all screenings, are available for $45/door, $30/advance; $35/door, $25/advance for students, seniors and LA&M members.

Advance tickets and passes are available at http://www.leatherarchives.org/cinekink
For more information and the full festival line-up, visit http://www.cinekink.com/chicago

CineKink: Chicago is sponsored locally by Chicago Eagle, Early 2 Bed, International Mr. Leather, Leather Sins, Materville Studios, Rodeo Riders Chicago and Tulip.

November 28, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (0)

Excellent piece by Rachel Kramer Bussel in the HuffPo, which makes the important point that most diagnoses of sex addiction are sheer BS. Sex addiction has to meet the same criteria as a drug addiction or alcoholism to be a legitimate addiction. Loving sex and wanting to have a lot of it doesn't make someone an addict. Wish I could tell that to all the shrinks who poison clients' minds with this nonsense.

Am I A Sex Addict? Are You?

....To summarize, just because you think about sex, have sex, use pornography, and fantasize about people other than your partner doesn't make you a sex addict in any way. If you are truly concerned about your own sexual history and think you may need treatment, by all means, seek out a qualified therapist. In the meantime, let's separate our prudish judgments about other people's sex lives from a true problem.

November 27, 2007 in Sexual Science and Medicine | Permalink | Comments (0)

November 23, 2007 in Pets and Animal Love | Permalink | Comments (4)

Woman has 200 orgasms every day

PRETTY Sarah Carmen is a 200-a-day orgasm girl who gets good, good, GOOD vibrations from almost anything.

The rumble of a train on the tracks, the purr of a hairdryer, the rhythmic drone of a photo-copier are all enough to make her go oh oh oh, ahhhhh....

Sarah, 24, suffers from Permanent Sexual Arousal Syndrome (PSAS), which increases blood flow to the sex organs....

It's a very rare condition, and some doctors don't believe it has a basis in physiology, but in psychology. Either way, what an exhausting way to live!

November 23, 2007 in Sexual Health | Permalink | Comments (1)

Watched an archaeology show a few nights ago and caught an interview with these two. Needless to say, I was fucking fascinated.

For his entire adult live, the son of famed forensic pathologist, Frederick Zugibe, has been his father's guinea pig for a decades-long study of crucifixion.

Frederick Zugibe, Forensic Pathology, Medicine, Crucifixion and Shroud Medical Studies

November 23, 2007 in Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (0)

What I've been listening to a LOT lately.

(If you've got the time, watch the official copyright version on YouTube - the production/sound quality is WAY better.)

November 23, 2007 in Autobiographical Urges | Permalink | Comments (0)

Guess Who Has the Most First-Date Sex?

....single women over age 50 are twice as likely as their under-40 friends to have sex on the first date.

Unlike married women over age 50, who skip the date and just have the sex.

She said with a knowing smile.

November 21, 2007 in Sex and Relationships | Permalink | Comments (0)

November 21, 2007 in Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (0)

Stole this one from my awesome niece Aine's personal blog, a photo she snapped of a convenience store she passed during a summer road trip through the midwest. She says there's a chain of 'em. I prefer thinking of it as a daisy chain.

Too bad it doesn't offer adult peep booths and really live up to its name.

November 21, 2007 in Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (1)

I don't run a whole lot of cat pictures here (my dogs won't let me) but this is a special shout-out to Malachi, our big brave red tom cat, the scourge of small vermin and the apple of every human's eye. Like all cats, Mr. Malachi is a special cat: brave and noble and bold and proud, sweet and affectionate and cuddly and mild. Our little lion of love had major surgery yesterday and he isn't out of the woods yet. This kitten-pin-up is for you, Malachi. We are all waiting for you to come home.

Here's one of Malachi in healthier times, lounging like a pasha with his sisters:

November 21, 2007 in Pets and Animal Love | Permalink | Comments (0)

Lloyd Russell was a kind, lovely leatherman from Georgia who passed away a couple of years ago. Lloyd was known for his (straight) political activism (he once ran for local office as a Libertarian) and his good works and citizenship in the SM community as well. When Lloyd died, he bequeathed money for the betterment of the Leather communities. Now the foundation which bears his name has announced a new grant program. Very very cool. Best wishes to his executor and beloved friend, Pamm, for fulfilling Lloyd's wishes and dreams.

Hello friends!

The Lloyd E. Russell Foundation is about to announce a brand new grant program for ALL of the GBLTQ and leather community here in the southeast.

Beginning January 1, 2008, the foundation will begin accepting applications for grants to individuals and organizations for the purposes of education as well as ONE TIME emergency grants for individuals with immediate, emergency needs for housing, transportation, food needs etc..

The Lloyd E. Russell Foundation was established by Lloyd E. Russell as a means to assist others within the above mentioned communities. To date, contributions have been made via the Charitable Gift Fund (a separate entity) to Sheltering Arms, the Lesbian Health Initiative, Atlanta Pride, Georgia Equality, Project Open Hand, Leather Leadership Conference and Youth Pride among others. The next step in distributing his largess is the activation of the Lloyd E. Russell Foundation. I am privileged to be the Director of this organization.

Lloyd Russell was active in the Atlanta gay community as both an activist and business person. He owned the Cove for many years, ran for Lt. Governor in 1998 as a Libertarian candidate, was a board member of Atlanta Pride, was active in Atlanta politics, served as a media activist during the 1960's as well as held the property on which the Phoenix Bar conducted business. His primary focus was education for all. He endowed a chair in journalism at a major university and worked within the leather community to broaden horizons and acceptance on many levels. Lloyd knew in his heart that knowledge is power and knowledge leads to tolerance. In his years, he learned many things about many walks of life as well as many paths. Lloyd passed away in March 2006. He entrusted me with the distribution of his estate according to his wishes.

If you, as an individual or group/organization, would like to receive more information and be placed on the mailing list, please contact the foundation at lerfoundation@gmail.com. The web site is in development at this time. The foundation is a private 501 (c) (3) entity with the IRS. The tax I.D. number is: EIN 58-2105841 The foundation does NOT solicit contributions nor participate in ANY fund raising activities for its existence, at this point in time, there are NO PAID employees. The foundation has physical office space, a post office mail box and is in process of developing a web site with more information.. The mission of the foundation is to provide the GBLTQ and leather communities with funding for programs and activities which enhance mental and physical heath, provide social support and to foster in Atlanta and the southeast an awareness of past and present contributions of the GBLTQ and leather communities.

There will be other opportunities for individuals and/or groups outside of the Atlanta area as the foundation moves forward. For those of you outside of the Southeast, please be patient. Programs and opportunities are in development for you.

Please note that NO applications will be accepted prior to January 1, 2008. There will be updates posted as they develop to all YAHOO groups, myspace and anyone on the mailing list as they occur. Please, DO NOT contact me via YAHOO mail or AOL mail. Address any questions via lerfoundation@gmail.com.


Pamm

November 20, 2007 in Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (2)

What more does one need for happiness?

November 19, 2007 in Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (0)

Really people: I understand that the fuss and stress Thanksgiving may cause you to feel that you cannot control your own life as you please...but for God's sake, don't take it out on your pets. At least give your dog a safe word.

November 19, 2007 in Pets and Animal Love | Permalink | Comments (0)

Wow, she must have cooked a really bad turkey.

November 19, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (2)

Hope all you American readers are gearing up - and winding down - for a very happy holiday.

I'm going to keep my strangely erratic blog schedule for at least another week, as I continue to hunker down with an off-line writing project. Planning a very laid-back and mellow T'day this year. Since I'm in full-on writer mode (i.e., unfit for human company) I've threatened to show up for the turkey dinner in the nude - an idea that was genially, albeit dubiously, greeted by my life-partners. Anyone ever do a naked Thanksgiving? A leather Thanksgiving?

November 19, 2007 in Post-Modern Pop Culture | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

Unsurprising:

The results, appearing in the online edition of the peer-reviewed journal Sex Roles, show that for both women and men there was a benefit to having a feminist partner. Feminist women were also more likely than others to be in a romantic relationship.

"If you're a woman paired with a male feminist," said [Rutgers professor Laurie] Rudman, "you have a healthier relationship across the board"--better in terms of relationship quality, equality, stability and sexual satisfaction.

"And men paired with female feminists have greater sexual satisfaction and greater relationship stability," she said. "So, [there were] higher scores on two of the four dimensions, with no difference on the other two."

I would like to see this study controlled for IQ, because I wonder if what really is happening here is that high intelligence leads to both feminism and better relationships. For the moment, though, I accept the idea that embracing equality makes for a better love match:

If a relationship is based on authoritarian control, keeping one person on top and the other underneath, it gets old pretty fast--for both partners, really," said [Gina] Ogden, a Boston sex therapist who surveyed 3,810 people for her book "The Heart and Soul of Sex."

"In an egalitarian relationship, there is more flow of give and take," she said, "and that's the romantic tension. That tension--the sexual desire--is in that space between you where you're able to flow back and forth."

In her experience, said Ogden, "where there's caring, sharing, openness and honesty, sexual satisfaction increases. It not only feels good now, but it is likely to get better and better as you age."

That's clearly right.

     Chicago psychotherapist Sue Scheffler, who treats couples, seconds that  emotion.

"What's important is mutual respect," said Scheffler. "If you're married to someone with feminist values--someone with a sense that men and women have the same worth--that would be a key factor in terms of your health and satisfaction in the marriage, whether or not you call yourself a feminist."

That's also a good point. It would be valuable to measure attitudes which correlate to feminist beliefs instead of asking people if they classify themselves as feminists.

She added: "No woman wants to be a slave, and I don't think even a somewhat enlightened guy would want to be a meal ticket. There has to be some role satisfaction, whatever you've elected to do, and you have to feel like your partner respects your choice."

Well, okay, caveat: Some women want to be slaves sometimes, but are feminists the rest of the time.

Sadly, this is also unsurprising:

Since word of the study started leaking out, mostly online, Rudman said she has received a lot of attention. "There are a lot of angry bloggers out there," she said. "We're accused of being man-hating, radical lesbians. One blogger wrote, 'I Googled them--they're both dogs.' That put a dent in my graduate student's naivete.

(Via Aaron Krager at Faithfully Liberal.)

-Mithras

November 18, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex and Culture, Sex and Relationships | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

Rumor has it that Penthouse Media Group has acquired Friendfinder:

The company, which was founded by Andrew Conru, is rumored to now have revenues in excess of $300 million annually. The acquisition price is said to be 3x revenue, or around $1 billion.

Friendfinder's main business is Adult Friendfinder, the largest adult dating site in the world. Back in August, there were rumors, which turned out to be false, that Friendfinder had sold for $400-500 million. Since this is twice that price, since Adult Friendfinder's traffic growth has been flat or negative since August, since we're clearly heading into a major recession, and since the entire dating industry is struggling to find growth in the face of free online personals and community sites like facebook, I am skeptical that this rumor is true.

(Via Online Dating Insider.)

-Mithras

Update 11/19/07: Maybe the price was closer to $500 million. Maybe the whole story is full of shit.

I pick the latter.

Update again: The CEO of Friendfinder says the story is false.

November 18, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex and Technology, Sex On-Line | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

Hallelujah:

Other things being equal, ... youngsters who have consensual sex in their early-teen or even preteen years are, if anything, less likely to engage in delinquent behavior later on.

That new analysis ... is one of several recent instances in which a more precise parsing of data has begun to turn long-standing societal presumptions on their head. By bringing evidence to bear on complex social issues, these studies are forcing individuals and policymakers to rethink such hot-button topics as the benefits of breast-feeding, the risks of teen child-bearing and, in the latest example, the harms long presumed to result from teen sex.

Not for the first time, repressive, religiously-motivated anti-sex attitudes led scientists to misinterpret the data they were seeing. It took more precise techniques and an unbiased approach to find the truth:

[Another study, from Virginia,] found that identical twins, who have the same DNA, were more similar to one another in the ages at which they lost their virginity than were fraternal twins, whose DNA patterns are 50 percent the same -- an indication that genes influence the age at which a person will first have sex. Other twin studies have found the same pattern for delinquency.

Together, those findings suggest that some genes -- perhaps, for example, those that increase impulsivity and risk-taking -- may underlie both behaviors.

"You need to have some appetite for risk-taking to be a delinquent. And the same if you're 13 and going to have sex for the first time," Harden said.

This is significant because the government has focused its efforts on delaying early sexual behavior - including such extremely problematic tools such as abstinence-only education - as a means to prevent other, bad outcomes. If there is no causal link between early sex and delinquency, that approach is useless.

Efforts to prevent delinquency can hardly take aim at people's genes. But the Virginia study also indicates that social factors, as yet unidentified but perhaps involving relationships with family and friends, have an even bigger impact than genes on whether a child will become delinquent. Those are the things that should be identified and targeted by delinquency-prevention programs, said Jeanne Brooks-Gunn, co-director of Columbia University's National Center for Children and Families.

"I wouldn't be focusing on early sexuality . . . to alter rates of delinquency," she said.

That sound you hear is the gnashing of teeth by millions of anti-sex activists.

Perhaps most surprising, the Virginia study found that adolescents who had sex at younger ages were less likely to end up delinquent than those who lost their virginity later. Many factors play into a person's readiness for sex, but in at least some cases sexual relationships may offer an alternative to trouble, the researchers say.

I can see the slogans for that public service campaign now: "Do positions, not drugs."

Of course, there is still the obligatory stern warning:

Even then, there are emotional and physical risks. Young adolescents, in particular, are less likely to use condoms and so are vulnerable to sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies.

Yes, well, that's a public health problem that stems from a lack of knowledge. The answer to that, of course, is sex education for pre-teens.

-Mithras

November 16, 2007 in Caption Contest, Sex and Culture, Sexual Science and Medicine | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

From the "What the Fuck?" file:

A court in the ultra-conservative kingdom of Saudi Arabia is punishing a female victim of gang rape with 200 lashes and six months in jail, a newspaper reported on Thursday.

The 19-year-old woman -- whose six armed attackers have been sentenced to jail terms -- was initially ordered to undergo 90 lashes for "being in the car of an unrelated male at the time of the rape," the Arab News reported.

But in a new verdict issued after Saudi Arabia's Higher Judicial Council ordered a retrial, the court in the eastern town of Al-Qatif more than doubled the number of lashes to 200.

A court source told the English-language Arab News that the judges had decided to punish the woman further for "her attempt to aggravate and influence the judiciary through the media."

Her attackers get one to five years, she gets six months and a whipping. America's friends, the Saudis.

(Via Jessica Valenti at feministing.)

-Mithras

November 16, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex and Culture, Sex Laws and Crimes | Permalink | Comments (2)

By Mithras Invicti

Don Roper at Confessions of an English Gentleman has some valuable pointers on how to give a spanking to a woman who has never had one before. I like this one especially:

2. Listen to her. The feedback you get from listening is invaluable. It's not just the things she says. It's all those little noises, the gasps, the squeals, the yelps. It's not hard on the whole to tell if they are expressions of pain, or pleasure, or both together. Some girls are naturally noisy, some much more reserved, so you need to understand the context in which these noises are made.

-Mithras

November 16, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex and Relationships, Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (0)

Oh dear God.

Santas in Australia's largest city have been told not to use Father Christmas's traditional "ho ho ho" greeting because it may be offensive to women....Sydney's Santa Clauses have instead been instructed to say "ha ha ha".

story link

Why haven't we feminists gone after HoHos? Sure, they claim they're "another San Francisco treat" but we see right through their patriarchal conspiracy to demean women.

November 15, 2007 in Sex and Culture | Permalink | Comments (1)

Can you blame them?

From The Guardian (UK)'s just-published list of the most bizarre (and in some case, downright cruel) studies "conducted in name of scientific inquiry"

When investigating the sexual arousal of male turkeys researchers at Penn State University were impressed to see that the birds would attempt to mate with lookalike dummies. Piece by piece they removed parts of the dummy and found that the males were still highly aroused when presented with no more than a head on a stick.

story link

image from NWTF: wild turkey facts

November 15, 2007 in Sexual Science and Medicine | Permalink | Comments (0)

Thanks to Mike for sending this hilarious and allegedly unaired IKEA commercial. (Anyone know if it's real?)

November 15, 2007 in Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (1)

Those Viennese sure know how to interpret an American play...

Actors Wolfgang Michael and Silvie Rohrer (R) perform as Henry and Eleanor during a dress rehearsal of James Goldman's play "Der Loewe im Winter" (the lion in winter).

November 14, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (0)

November 14, 2007 in Sex and History | Permalink | Comments (0)

Ice-cream shaped like faeces is ready to be served.

OBVIOUSLY, Dairy Queen has a whole lotta 'splaining to do.

November 14, 2007 in Post-Modern Pop Culture, Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (1)

Hmmm.

Photoshop? Trick photography? Or a peroxide manifestation of my inner goddess in fuck-me shoes?

November 14, 2007 in Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (1)

File this under "sometimes I really hate being right."

U.S. sets record in sexual disease cases

More than 1 million cases of chlamydia were reported in the United States last year — the most ever reported for a sexually transmitted disease, federal health officials said Tuesday. "A new U.S. record," said Dr. John M. Douglas Jr. of the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.

More bad news: Gonorrhea rates are jumping again after hitting a record low, and an increasing number of cases are caused by a "superbug" version resistant to common antibiotics, federal officials said Tuesday.

Syphilis is rising, too. The rate of congenital syphilis — which can deform or kill babies — rose for the first time in 15 years.

November 14, 2007 in Sexual Health | Permalink | Comments (0)

Men are getting as neurotic and insecure about their looks as women. Jesus.

From a new UK study:

Quarter of all men 'too ashamed' to strip off in front of partners

A quarter of men are so embarrassed by their bodies that they are reluctant to be naked in front of their partner, a survey claimed yesterday....

Half of the 3,000 British men surveyed by the scales manufacturer Tanita described themselves as fat, and one in ten said he would consider having cosmetic surgery to remove his love-handles....72 per cent said the gym-honed slender bodies on show in the media made them feel insecure about their own less-than-perfect physiques.

OK, maybe it's just me, but until they can figure out how to give every man an 8" penis, I just don't see the point of elective plastic surgery. Are there women out there who'll reject a guy because he's got love handles or doesn't have a perfect butt?

Y'know... I've fucked guys with perfect six-packs and guys with blubber guts. And all I can say is that size and shape don't make for a great sex partner. The person you always have the most fun with is the person who lets go and has the most fun with you. The person who gives himself completely to the experience. There's no correlation between how you look and how much you get laid either. If you calculated who was having the most sex according to how conventionally attractive they were, you'd get the wrong answer. As a sex therapist, I get a kind of perverse delight from marveling over how some really unattractive people get more ass than a toilet seat while some genuinely adorable ones lead quiet lives of masturbation.

It's all in the attitude, people!

Funny how rarely scientists study the ingredients of good sex. They always focus on the phobias and fears. To me, what this study shows is that men are becoming increasingly sexually inhibited. Men are setting more and more conditions on how their bodies must look in order to allow themselves to be sexual. You poor bastards. Welcome to womanhood.

November 13, 2007 in Sexual Beauty | Permalink | Comments (2)

Anyone know why Friedrich Nietzsche is being play-whipped by the lady, Lou Salome? (N. is the one with the mustache.) Some dramatic re-enactment?

November 12, 2007 in Sex and History | Permalink | Comments (4)

Sexxpresso: Erotic coffee shop opens in Vegas

Sexxpresso ...Sin City's first erotic coffee shop, where you can order your favorite caffeinated drink in three different cup sizes.

This photo and lots more from Vegas Rex

November 12, 2007 in Sex and Culture | Permalink | Comments (6)

By Mithras Invicti

Always Aroused Girl:

The Crash Pad Series ... shows real women really fucking, and I don’t mean the often insipid girl-girl action you see in porn made primarily for men. I mean that The Crash Pad Series shows real women-loving women actually fucking each other with hands, fists (yummy), strap-ons and et cetera.

I loved it.

I checked out the trailers and it does look very hot. The series seems to be based on an unfortunate conceit that there is this actual apartment called the crash pad which has the power to make sex with whoever you take there incredible. I managed to ignore that and just enjoyed the great action. AAG is giving away a free one-month membership by randomly selecting one of the comments to her post.

-Mithras

November 10, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex On-Line | Permalink | Comments (0)

This dog sounds like it was crossed with a dolphin in a past life! O.M.G.

November 10, 2007 in Pets and Animal Love | Permalink | Comments (1)

By Mithras Invicti

There's a story going around the intertubes: A woman in Nottingham, England reportedly arranged for a performer in a gorilla costume to surprise her son at school for his 16th birthday, and she told the teacher there would be a surprise (without giving any details) and to take video.

Of course, the company made a mistake and sent a stripper to the classroom instead:

But it all went wrong when the unnamed company sent a stripper dressed as a policewoman instead of a "gorillagram" - in what it called a booking error.

One witness told reporters: "She asked the lad to stand up, which he did, and told him he had been a very naughty boy because he hadn't been doing his homework.

"Then she put on some Britney Spears music and got out a collar and lead from her bag and told him to put them on."

After walking the boy round the classroom and spanking him with a whip - the action turned even more blue.

"She took off some clothes until she was down to her bra and pants [British for panties - M], pulled out some cream, put it on her buttocks and told him to rub it in," the source said.

It was at that point the shocked teacher - who had not been told what the surprise was - called an end to the show.

While men all over the Western World will be divided into the I Wish I Had Been That Lucky and the At Least I Didn't Suffer That Trauma camps, I remain skeptical about the accuracy of this story. I suppose it's possible that the company could have sent a stripper instead of a gorilla, although I wonder how no one noticed they were sending her to a school.  But what was the performer herself thinking when she arrived at the school, or at the classroom? "This will make a nice change of pace from bachelor parties" perhaps. Or maybe "They all look so young and innocent, I hope they enjoy the show so the superintendent will give me a nice tip." And what about the teacher? She allowed the kid to be collared and leashed and spanked, but drew the line at nudity and rubbing buttocks? Maybe I am just showing my American bias, and seeing people spanked in public is commonplace in Britain. Still, I think this one belongs in the Funny, If True file.

-Mithras

November 9, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (0)

Thanks to Mike for submitting this site. What a blast from the past. Seems the 1960s mega-groupie has figured out a way to put her penis collection to good use. Here's her most famous cast of all, from guitar genius Jimi Hendrix:

If you don't know her, Cynthia was infamous for making plaster casts of musical phalli. Those were the days when a groupie with a schtick could get almost famous - and she was arguably the most famous groupie of them all. So cute to see her transform her old fetish into a source of funding for the arts. Check out Cynthia P Caster and the charitable foundation she created to help starving musicians. You can read her story about how she went from groupie to non-profit leader there too.

November 8, 2007 in Sex and Culture, Sex and History | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

Use every man after his desert, and who should 'scape whipping?

-Hamlet, Act II, scene ii

-Mithras

November 8, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (0)

Yeah, yeah, I'm taking a break...but Nightheron sent this in, thus compelling me to blog....

An actual street sign, posted without irony, in the fine state of Ohio:

November 7, 2007 in Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (0)

Hey, all. Thanks for the emails of concern (and apologies to those who've emailed and haven't heard back yet). All's just fine and dandy here. I'm just buried in work. Will come up for air soon, I hope.

G.

November 7, 2007 in Autobiographical Urges | Permalink | Comments (0)

Digging through old files, thought I'd share a pic of me from the CL photo shoot with Joeff Davis a few months back. For those who've never seen me...for those who've forgotten what I look like...and for those who haven't seen me in a long time and wonder what I look like these days.... Me voila.

November 4, 2007 in Autobiographical Urges | Permalink | Comments (0)

The only thing funnier than this magazine is that some of Ms. Rose's female readers think it's real - and they like it! (Thanks to Shepsl for pointing me to this!)

Sandra Rose: WHIPPED: The Magazine for Mama's Boys

Of course, it's a joke. Here's an earlier "issue" of this publication....

November 4, 2007 in Sex and Culture | Permalink | Comments (0)

Thanks to Quill for this!

Hannah Storm: You have a core group of supporters for your political views, but a lot of people [are] talking about your wife and the fact that she's over three decades younger and she statuesque and beautiful and has a pierced tongue. What do you make of the attention on her?

Dennis Kucinich: Well, the most important thing I would tell you, Hannah, as a professional, is it's important not to trivialize a woman who has worked on international humanitarian matters, you know, helping people in Africa get access to energy and to housing and education, helping poor people and children in India, working with a group connected with Mother Teresa, working with the Mission To Seafarers in London. Here's a woman of great accomplishment with a Master's degree in international conflict resolution, and I hope that you're going to talk about more than a tongue stud.

Link

November 4, 2007 in Sexual Politics | Permalink | Comments (0)

Man angry with son-in-law fingers him as terrorist to FBI

....when the husband refused to stay home, his father-in-law wrote an email to the FBI saying the son-in-law had links to al-Qaeda in Sweden and that he was travelling to the US to meet his contacts.

He provided information on the flight number and date of arrival in the US.

The son-in-law was arrested upon landing in Florida. He was placed in handcuffs, interrogated and placed in a cell for 11 hours before being put on a flight back to Europe, the paper said.

The FBI contacted Swedish intelligence agency Saepo, which discovered that the email tipping off the FBI had been sent from the father-in-law's computer.

The father-in-law has been charged with aggravated libel.

He has admitted sending the email, but said he didn't think "the authorities were so stupid that they would believe anything. But apparently they are."

November 4, 2007 in Sex and Relationships | Permalink | Comments (0)

A group of German ladies are selling fetish knitwear, including willywarmers, face masks and full bodysuits, to kinky fans who like it soft.

via Sexblo.gs

And if that's still not enough wool for you...

November 3, 2007 in Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (0)

Isn't it romantic? :)

November 3, 2007 in Pets and Animal Love | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

How could I have missed this before now? Ladies, gentlemen and others, I give you the ultimate humiliation toy, the George W. Bush buttplug:

And the ad text is pretty funny, too:

This President will really f*** you up the butt. You’re already familiar with the sensation, so why not REALLY FEEL IT with our exclusive Presidential Pooper Plug. Invade an Iraqi, an Afghani, or at even an Iranian when you want. With this fat headed, huge stub of a plug no ass is safe anywhere.

Made of 100% silicone with 4” of usable length and a head 1-1/2” in diameter, this butt plug will issue a 110% American ass drubbing. A 2-3/4” base prevents the little prick from digging in without a timetable for withdrawal.

Great gag gift for Log Cabin Republicans. Use as a dashboard ornament, mantelpiece or uncomfortable conversation piece. Get one now before we get killed!

As always, remember to play safe, play clean and never ever go through airport security with this gag tucked away.

Send one to your favorite favorite enhanced interrogation technique practitioner today!

(Via local hero Phillybits.)

-Mithras

November 3, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sexual Humor | Permalink | Comments (0)

Winner of the 2007 World Backside Championships.

November 3, 2007 in Sexual Beauty | Permalink | Comments (0)

By Mithras Invicti

The United States Supreme Court heard oral argument on Tuesday in the case of U.S. v. Williams:

Michael Williams ... was arrested in 2004 after he traded messages in an Internet chat room with an undercover federal agent posing as a woman.

Williams offered to trade photos of children with the agent and then posted seven images of minors in sexually explicit conduct. [Williams also offered to trade hard-core child porn pictures which, it turns out, did not exist.] At issue before the Supreme Court is his conviction for promoting child pornography.

Williams's attorney is arguing that the law is unconstitutional on the grounds that it violates the Free Speech Clause of the First Amendment.

At issue is the “pandering” provision in the 2003 Prosecutorial Remedies and Other Tools to End the Exploitation of Children Today Act (“PROTECT Act”). The provision makes it illegal to solicit, distribute, present or offer “actual child pornography” — a sexually explicit visual representation of a real minor — or any visual representation of a minor engaging in obscene behavior.

The PROTECT Act’s pandering provision would garner almost no attention if it merely attempted to regulate real offers to transact in child pornography, cases where the material involved is indisputably illegal in nature.  However, the pandering provision goes much further, criminalizing “purported offers”— offers that characterize otherwise lawful representations as illegal child pornography by emphasizing the material’s prurient appeal. The First Amendment question here is, if the pictures being “pandered” are lawful, can Congress criminalize speech drawing attention to the pictures’ sexual nature, or has Congress committed the ultimate First Amendment sin with its new pandering offense, prohibiting the mere expression of unpopular ideas?

Congress finds itself in this difficult position because, having achieved its goal of criminalizing activities associated with actual child pornography, it is now concerned with the distribution of “gateway” or marginal representations that it argues are part of the same market for pornographic representations of children.

In other words, Williams is appealing his conviction because the law doesn't require the determination that the material he posted is really child porn (even though it was). His argument is that the PROTECT Act would also sweep in such artistic works as "Lolita", "Traffic", "American Beauty" and "Titanic", each of which depict simulated child sex. He also argues that it violates his free speech rights to convict him for simply offering child porn (in this case, the hard-core child porn which did not exist), because he claims that offer is expressive conduct which deserves protection, although the porn itself can lawfully be banned. Finally, he claims the PROTECT Act violates the constitution because it focuses on what a person who gets an offer to receive child porn believes that offer means - Williams argues that someone making a perfectly innocent offer to send non-porn could be arrested if the recipient of the offer could reasonably misunderstand the offer to be one for child porn.

I think this is an important case not because child porn should be protected, but because Williams's lawyers raise good argument about how the law could be applied to non-child porn. Usually, that won't happen, but in the hands of corrupt or overzealous prosecutors - which we've seen a lot of lately - it can be harmful.

-Mithras

November 3, 2007 in Mithras Invicti, Sex Laws and Crimes | Permalink | Comments (0)

Ever since I started researching pulp magazines and men's magazines and other types of sleazy sex art from the mid-20th century, well, I just can't STOP. There is so much of it. And so much of it is so hilariously weird to look back on. Is it possible people once took this stuff seriously?

I love the posters I found for this art show segment. The art is wondrously bad - so bad that it's kind of great. But it's the tag-lines that slay me. If there was a movie channel that was devoted to pseudo-SM trash like this, I'd be the first to subscribe (even though I know that often the posters were the most exciting thing about the movie - I bet some of these films didn't deliver anything near as racy as the poster suggests).

You can find lost of resources for these funky old posters, but one of the best I saw was the Devil's Web Gallery. You can also find scores of listings on eBay, where original posters from these trashy old movies sell for hundreds of bucks - which is probably more than many of the actors who appeared in these films got paid.

Gay?

November 2, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (0)

Today's show begins with the sublime photography of Helmut Newton.

The most influential high fashion photographer of the 20th Century was also the most influential sadomasochistic photographer of the 20th Century. Though he created huge portfolios of haute couture photography for Vogue, it was his more personal work that demonstrated the reach of his fetishistic imagination. If you don't know Helmut Newton, prepare to be thrilled.

Because he died only three years ago - and because he was just one of the coolest and most prolific artists of our times - information about his life is readily available on the Net. If you're interested in knowing more about him, check out my pick of the best links for biographical info and galleries of his work.

Helmut Newton: Official Site

Remembering Helmut Newton

Newton @ the International Center for Photography

Newton @ the Staley Wise Gallery

November 2, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (0)

Don't worry. They're bound to free us in time for tomorrow's art show.

November 1, 2007 in Sex and Arts | Permalink | Comments (0)

Tristan Taormino takes a close look at the recent bondage death of a Southern pastor and offers an analysis of bondage and the reasons people love it.

The Pleasures and Dangers of Bondage

...By now, you've probably heard something about the pastor of Thorington Road Baptist Church in Montgomery, Alabama, who was a friend of Jerry Falwell and was found dead in lots of rubber with a butt plug in his ass. There have been plenty of blog entries about how he was yet another closeted, kinky, conservative hypocrite who preached salvation but practiced sin. But in reading the details—especially from the coroner's report—I was struck by something else: Man, this guy was really into bondage. He was found alone wearing two rubber wet suits, a face mask, a rubber head mask, rubber underwear, diving gloves, and flippers; the various ways he was restrained seem to indicate he was hogtied, which is difficult (but not impossible) to achieve by yourself....

November 1, 2007 in Sex and Sadomasochism | Permalink | Comments (2)

Or perhaps they're just too pissed off to move?

via cuteoverload

November 1, 2007 in Pets and Animal Love | Permalink | Comments (0)

and why is her ass making the news?

link

November 1, 2007 in Post-Modern Pop Culture, Sexual Beauty | Permalink | Comments (0)