Awww. Received this incredibly lovely letter from some readers of Come Hither a couple days ago, and with their permission thought I'd share. It just made my day week month! I count my fans as my life's greatest blessing.

Dear Gloria,

I have just finished reading your book, Come Hither, with my wife of 24 years.

I have tried to come to terms with my need for kinky sex for many years. I know that the feelings and needs go back to being a small child, well before I had any idea about sex, I just knew that some things felt really nice, for example wrapping myself tightly in the bed clothes so I couldn't move and the feel of the satin edge on a particular blanket.

I have recently made considerable progress in how I feel about my needs. I have previously tried to discuss them with my wife but without much success. I bought one book written by a Prodom that Amazon recommended as an introduction. I asked her to read it, the end result was not good and left her feeling pressured and uncomfortable.

I then found your book and it has been a revelation. It is easy to read, full of humour, warmth and humanity.

Your book has enabled us to talk honestly and openly with each other about our feelings about kinky sex. My previous attempts to do this were pretty much along the lines of the less than successful approaches you have described in the book. Not quite the "Diver Dan surprise" approach but the coy, guilty, negative make your partner feel unloved thing was definitely in evidence.

The quiz near the beginning of the book made me realise that my wife is far kinkier than I ever realised. It got us talking and has really helped to deal with our feelings towards each other and kinky sex.

The outcome is that we both feel like 17 year olds again. It is like an enormous weight has been lifted off both of us and a whole new chapter of life has opened up for us. I am so excited I can hardly sleep.

Your book has been an enormous help to both of us and I wanted to thank you.

I wish you a long happy and healthy (and kinky of course) future. I hope that you will continue to write as I am sure that there are countless others out there who could benefit from reading your work. I feel that your work is of particular value to couples like us who are unlikely to join the club scene but who are quite happy to be regularly kinky in the privacy of our own homes.


Thank You

January 26, 2008 in Autobiographical Urges | Permalink

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I second this warm and enthusiastic review and endorsement for your book. I found it at the local university bookstore about five years ago. It was largely responsible for my beginning to understand what kink is, that I'm kinky, and that it's really okay. I'd been struggling with being different since childhood without a real context to put it in. It took a lot more work before I could finally come out into the local community, but I made it. What a difference from living in frustration, constantly pretending to be vanilla.

Unfortunately, Come Hither didn't connect at all for my wife, and we have moved farther and farther apart and no longer attempt any kind of sexual relationship. It's something that had to happen, and sad as it is, it's way less sad than suffering with uncertainty, shame, frustration, and suicidal thoughts. I want to thank you very much for your book, Ms. Brame. Its light-hearted, relaxed spirit makes it fun to read, yet it totally treats kink with the respect it, and we, deserve. I recommend your book to people whenever I get the chance.

Posted by: Leopold at Jan 26, 2008 4:45:53 PM

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Omigosh, thank you so much.

Over the years I've had tons of feedback on Different Loving but much less so on Come Hither. It's wonderful to know it's helped folks out there.

G.

Posted by: Gloria at Jan 26, 2008 5:09:56 PM

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