I don't know if this a spiritual thing for him, or a moral thing, or an "I'm all fucked out" thing. But for some reason, the party-hardy Kravitz has renounced pre-marital sex.

Party boy Lenny Kravitz bans sex

US rocker Lenny Kravitz seems an unlikely candidate to embrace a new conservatism toward sex before marriage.

But on the eve of the release of his new album, It Is Time For A Love Revolution, Kravitz has revealed he has been celibate for the past three years and plans to stay that way until he meets Ms Right....

Seems a shame for a pretty man like him to put himself on a shelf. And why exactly is he doing it? Why do people go around renouncing sex and promoting abstinence? Easy. They are prudes who think that sex is bad, evil, unworthy, degrading, (insert your own Puritan blablabla) in the first place.

When someone offers me a piece of chocolate, I don't tell them, "I'm sorry, I've renounced all chocolates until I can obtain a mystery chocolate I've never yet tasted but which I one day hope to savor?" I take the chocolate and feel lucky that someone was nice enough to offer me one.

Why does sex have to be this big moral issue, this enormous spiritual crisis? Why can't people see it as simply a normal, pleasurable experience an adult is entitled to enjoy - like eating a favorite food or jumping into a favorite swimming pool?

There are a ton of reasons people don't (or can't) have sex. Most of them are involuntary, like not being able to find someone who'll have sex with them or a body image problem or health issues. But even the healthiest, most libidinous adults have sexless periods. Why, yes, dear readers, even I've gone without sex, or without certain types of sex, for periods of time. It's no big deal. It's not like I've renounced anything. I just haven't felt like doing XYZ or didn't feel like doing it with the man I was with. But I might meet someone else or feel differently tomorrow. That's life. Y'know...sometimes you're hot and sometimes you're not.

But people who renounce sex like it's some big moral statement are inwardly conflicted about sex. They may act as if choosing chastity means they're better than the rest of us. All it proves is that they're even more fucked up. There are a ton of reasons why people choose celibacy, but IMO, the only really good reason to choose celibacy is because it turns you on.

January 29, 2008 in Sex and Culture | Permalink

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We actually touched on this yesterday in class, discussing abstinence-based sex ed and it's correlation to teen pregnancies. My instructor then said how nice it would be if kids were simply taught that "sex is a loving act between two people who want to share an ultimate trust and intimacy and partnership..." there was more, including some comments on monogamy, but that was the gist. Normally, I like this guy, but this made me want to smack him.
Yes, I agree sex can be a wonderful expression of yadda yadda yadda between two partners who yadda yadda yadda, but quite frankly some of the best and most intimate sex I've ever had was one-offs with friends who needed the comfort, or someone who was more or less a fuckbuddy, etc etc. Sex is not necessarily a HUGE DEAL between forever partners... sometimes it's a lot simpler than that, and I simply don't see anything wrong with that.
/rant :)

Posted by: Noel at Jan 30, 2008 10:16:17 AM

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Maybe Lenny just doesn't want to end up like Gene Simmons.

Posted by: Nightheron2 at Jan 30, 2008 1:29:10 PM

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