It's called impulse control

Most pervs have fetishes of one kind or another, and some of us have intense and specific fetishes. It's pretty typical for us, at one time or another, to have an overwhelming urge to act out those fetishes. The urge can come on so powerfully we feel like we'll go nuts if we don't do something about it. Like... RIGHT NOW. That frenzied sense of urgency makes us fantasize about doing things we know are risky or illegal or just plain stupid. Fortunately, most of us understand that imposing our fetish needs on non-consenting partners is crossing the line and we strictly limit our activities to consenting adults.

Unfortunately, not all of us do. And when the law gets hold of fetishists who do not control their impulses, they're usually doomed to being labeled sex criminals for the rest of their lives. Like this pathetic jerk.

Victim of up-skirt photo shoots back

NEW YORK - Police arrested a man accused of taking a cell phone picture under a subway rider's skirt after the victim said she used her own phone to snap back. The 28-year-old woman said she was victimized last month while climbing stairs to an elevated station in upper Manhattan. A passer-by confirmed her suspicion that he had taken a photo up her skirt, she said.

Dude. Were her panties worth a rap sheet?

In reality, for every fetishist that picks on unsuspecting straights, there are tens of thousands of fetishists who mind their public manners. But John and Jane Straight Public don't know about the millions of kinky people whose private desires remain private: they judge us by the idiots who get busted.

Obviously, for some fetishists the thrill isn't just about the fetish itself but also the thrill of getting caught (or, conversely, of getting away with something illegal). Personally, I distinguish between the fetish impulse (aka sexual identity) and the law-breaking impulse (aka sociopathy). I'm sure there are those (particularly on UseNet) who'd defend law-breaking behaviors by saying "but that's what turns him on, so what else can he do?" or "how dare you judge his kink!!?"

To which I say bollocks. It isn't about kink, it's about poor impulse control! Role-play your fantasy, for God's sake. Find people who will construct with you a clever way to relieve the impulse! Don't involve people who don't want to play. You may think it's harmless fun to take advantage of a stranger but if that stranger doesn't agree (and what stranger would?), you're fucked. Put more bluntly: if you want to do the crime, plan to do the time.

So while I abhor the general atmosphere of ignorance and fear that surrounds the legislation of sexual behavior, I think the woman who felt victimized is doing the right thing. No one should have to fear unwelcome sexual intrusions in their lives. Period.

Comments

[Concerned Citizen]

I disagree 100%. Natural is normal, and for a man to look at something that is on public display (though looking up a skirt requires unique angles) shouldn't be illegal. If you don't want a man to look up your skirt, don't wear a skirt. Being male and having male desires should not be illegal. It is part of being human. It is natural and healthy for men to want to look at women. The laws have been twisted to make male desires bad, but female desires (to be attractive and desired) are completely legal. The legal system is broken, and it needs to be fixed. Everyone should be free to be 100% natural. We are sexual creatures, so sexual desires are 100% natural. "Acting" out your desires in a role playing situation is not natural, and is truly bizarre and perverted.

Where would humans be if males did not like the way females looked? That's right. extinct!!!