Thanks to N. for pointing me to this NY Times review of what promises to be an engrossing read. Anyone familiar with this author or his previous work?
Daniel Bergner, 48, the divorced father of two teenage children, is what sexologists would call a straight, vanilla teleiophile. He is attracted to adults, that is, prefers the opposite sex and doesn’t shop for lovemaking accessories — clothespins, clamps, carabiners, rubber gloves — at Home Depot. He has never allowed himself to be basted with honey, naked except for a leather jockstrap, and roasted on a spit over glowing coals.
A man who did just that during an S&M orgy, however, figures in The Other Side of Desire: Four Journeys into the Far Realms of Lust and Longing. So do a couple who pick up sex toys at the hardware store and a man who, all things considered, would just as soon have sex with a horse as with a woman. “The trust factor,” he said, explaining his preference to Mr. Bergner. “I find that I’m closer to horses.”