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Pat Robertson on cheating in marriage

the world according to Pat Robertson: men were born to cheat and women were born to be submissive.  (isn't it a pity that people don't have to know what they're talking about to talk about it to other people who don't know?)

Televangelist Claims It's The Wife's Job To Keep Men Faithful

www.huffingtonpost.com

Pat Robertson has many opinions on subjects including homosexuality, politics and the coming of the Mark of the Beast, but it was the famous televangelist's opinion on marriage that took center stage during Wednesday's episode of his daily television program, "The 700 Club."

via www.facebook.com

A Shout-Out To Our Sex-Positive Friends at the Vatican

Yeah, baby, that's what I want to see -- Catholic priests jerking off instead of molesting people or dying young.   For this, they should be forgiven and embraced, not ridiculed or isolated.

So from me to you, welcome to our world, where sex is beautiful, people are friendly, and life is made to be lived to the fullest. Hope more clergy follow your lead so that one day everyone understands more about the importance of sex -- even for priests.

 

Someone in Vatican City had better get to confession.

Torrent Freak has unearthed the download history from an IP address in the Pope's place of residence and some of the movies are of the porn persuasion.

For a full list of the dirty downloads, go to Torrent Freak.

Rev. Debra Haffner of the Religious Institute told The Huffington Post she's "not surprised" at the Vatican City findings...[and] pointed to the Religious Institute's survey which found that "one in five clergy reported intentionally visiting a sexually explicit website in the past six months."

The 2012 study also found that "an additional 16 percent replied that they preferred not to answer the question about their personal use of these sites."

via Porn Downloaded From IP Address In Vatican City

Better Living Through Sex

Sorry about the in and out sound on last night's podcast.  Now that the book's done, I'm going to dominate that damn studio interface. May even do a stand-alone this week just to experiment with the studio software myself. I'll let you know and maybe we can "do lunch" later this week. I've got a couple more mic options to try.

If you were able to listen to it all, however, you'll recall I talked about how desperately repressedresearch on sex has been for the past 100+ years, trailing all the other human/health sciences by decades in terms of advances because of the cultural anxiety and fear of sex which continually freezes funding for worthwhile research.

Here's a piece discussing some new advances in condom technology -- one of only a tiny handful of areas where we could be doing so much better.  This new "origami" condom looks amazing.

 

Our civilization has explored outer space. We have cars that drive themselves. We've created a world connected by computers. But despite the astonishing innovations of the last 100 years, the latex condom remains woefully old fashioned. It practically hasn't changed since its invention in 1918. And I think we can all agree that condoms are universally hated—a necessary evil of safe, protected sex.

via Introducing the Condom of the Future

Hot and Gooey for Spring: Penis Macaroon

SFist: How does it feel to be the representative cookie of the Castro?

Penis Macaroon: It feels great. I'm not the only penis you see walking around here, which is nice. I feel like everyone accepts me for who I am. No one is asking me to "put it back in my pants", for example. No one is covering their kids' eyes when they walk by. I feel totally supported by the community and that's really all I can ask for.

via Dessertwire: In Which We Interview a Hot Cookie Penis Macaroon

Get It From the Woman Who Studies Duck Dicks Herself #sexscience

My commentary yesterday about why I'm happy we study the sex lives of snails prompted my pal Dyadya Abdul to share this really awesome piece on Slate, affirming the value of sex study and correcting the myths and dumb-assery being spread by right-wing media sources. Highly recommended!

 

Why I Study Duck Genitalia, By Patricia Brennan

In the past few days, the Internet has been filled with commentary on whether the National Science Foundation should have paid for my study on duck genitalia, and 88.7 percent of respondents to a Fox news online poll agreed that studying duck genitalia is wasteful government spending. The commentary supporting and decrying the study continues to grow. As the lead investigator in this research, I would like to weigh in on the controversy and offer some insights into the process of research funding by the NSF....continue reading

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Snail Sex Study Funded With Your Tax Dollars FTW!

The Corporate Dominatrix: profile of Beatrice Stonebanks

Must read.

via CAREERS AND ED: Bend over, boardroom: Beatrice Stonebanks wants to teach you how to be a corporate dominatrix

 

What kind of a person wants to stop you from giving or getting blow jobs?

As a sex therapist, I feel so bad for people who fear sex.    Here's this nice-looking man, and yet he's never had a blow job! That's the saddest, most perverted thing I've ever heard.

 

via Virginia Gov. Candidate Cuccinelli Defending Law That Forbids Oral Sex

 

At this rate, they're going to need to change the state motto to "Virginia is for Haters."

Oh Grow Up, You Dumb-Ass Media Salivators

This is NEWS? Really?

 

A powerful New Jersey Democrat who’s being touted as the party’s next state chairman has an insatiable lust for bondage, oral sex and spanking, secret e-mails obtained by The Post reveal.

via www.nypost.com

*humming*

"if insatiable lust for bondage and spanking is wrong, I don't wanna be right"

 

 

2 of my fave pics from the DC rallies

If I wasn't in SF having such a wonderful time with my leather brothers, I'd want to be in DC, among the sweet beautiful people standing up for equal rights. 

 

 

 

 

 

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Hitting the Road, Boys

I'll be in San Francisco from this coming Saturday until the following Sunday and have lots of amazing plans lined up.   If you're in the Bay area, you can hear me talk about my life-work, volumes I and II of The Truth About Sex, at the Leather Discussion Group, on March 27, 7:30 to 9:30

What I don't know is if or whether I'll have much time for the blog.  So if you don't hear from me before April, 1, enjoy this last show and I'll be back before you know it.

xo,

G

 

I Pity the People Who Fear Sex or, "Super Bowl: Gateway to Depravity"

Hopping around the sex news, I fell upon this mesmerizing trove of sexual hysteria -- the yield of a Freedom of Information Act request the clever editors at Deadspin filed with the FCC, asking to see the complaints filed after Super Bowl Sunday 2013.

 

Beyoncé is a "slut." She "gyrated her pelvis," "humping the air for 13 minutes." She "dressed like a stripper" dancing in "erotica fashion." Her "breasts protruded out, her butt almost completely showed." She "showed her vaginal area to all the world." Some people had very different reactions to the Super Bowl than the rest of us.

"A Women Kissing A Nerd," "Beyonce Girating Her Vagina," And Other Angry Complaints To The FCC About The Super Bowl / deadspin.com

 

 

Generally speaking, it makes me livid when politicians, censors, and policy makers opine ignorantly about the dangers of sex and meddle with us consenting grown-ups who don't need anyone to tell us what we should and should not do in bed.  They have the power to curtail our personal freedoms and frequently use it without regard to reason or science.  My contempt for them is boundless.

I don't feel the same about ordinary people, though.  I feel sad for them.  When you read the letters that ordinary adults write -- not just to the FCC but all over the Internet --angrily denouncing completely harmless, natural and sexy behaviors, and claiming how it is inappropriate for children you realize that they themselves are the children  they're trying to protect.    They are the ones who are shocked and traumatized because their mommies and daddies made them feel guilty and ashamed about their own genitals and completely freaked out by vaginas.  Now they are passing that sick point of view along to their children, and, in their own mentally unbalanced ways, perpetuating misogyny and rape culture.   

Particularly poignant to me: it's FOOTBALL!  A brutal sport, where men are routinely injured in ghastly ways and spend all their time on the field engaged in a ritualized war.  Oh yes, it would be so much more wholesomely American if they were carrying unconscious men out on a stretchers and not destroy it with a woman wiggling around in a bathing suit, right guys?

I pity them; I pity their children; it only makes me want to write more and work more towards the day when our culture agrees that sex is less obscene than violence.

 

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Vaginal Cleansers and Lubes Raise STI Risk

But do it the natural way. In my new book (coming by June!), I have a section where I talk about using lots of clear water instead of artificial cleansers and potentially toxic chemicals to keep your genitals fresh and sparkly.  

Though we all want to believe that over-the-counter products are safe for use, the facts show otherwise.    Pulling things off the shelf based on what the box says is not enough.   When it comes to personal health, you should google it and research products before you shop.  This new study confirms my own concerns that lots of the drugstore products sold to women simply are not safe.

 

NEW YORK (Reuters Health) - Two thirds of women in a new U.S. study reported regularly using cleansers, lubricants or petroleum jelly intravaginally - and some of the products were linked to a higher chance of common vaginal infections.

Those mundane yeast and bacterial infections, and the inserted products themselves, can damage vaginal tissue and raise a woman's susceptibility to sexually transmitted diseases, such as herpes, chlamydia and HIV, researchers said.

via news.yahoo.com

 

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If you're new to googling info on drugs or treatments of any kind (from sex lubes to cosmetic surgeries), here are my tips

1. To get info on a product, type the product's name and the words "reviews complaints." For example, "Vagisil reviews complaints."

2. If you are looking for a product, type exactly what you want, as if you were talking to a sex-positive druggist, for example, "I need a good sex lube." 

3. If you have a pre-existing condition or allergies, add your individual concern to any search you run.  For example, "sex lube diabetes."

UK deserves crown as Europe's Prince of Prudery

Fresh from my mailbox from author Mark Brendan, this awful news from the UK, where consensual adult sex has been a political hot potato for several years, and where ignorance, prejudice and prudery are winning the day as lawmakers criminalize consensual, normal sex.

 

Hi, Gloria,

 

Weep for Europe and the mother of the free. http://www.telegraph.co.uk/technology/news/9917189/MEPs-to-vote-on-EU-ban-on-all-forms-of-pornography.html, and, incidentally, http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/leveson-inquiry/9817625/Leveson-EU-wants-power-to-sack-journalists.html. And, in this deceptively imposed, unaccountable superstate, we can do damn all about it!

 

All best,

 

Mark Brendon

Author: Swinging: The Games Your Neighbours Play (Harper Collins) and See You Next Thursday

Future Science: figuring out connections

I think the future of research about identity (who we are, why we act the way we do, what makes us happy) is in genetics and brain research, where new data will continue to challenge old assumptions and yield new info on both the connections and the normal variations in human identity.

 

WASHINGTON (AP) — The largest genetic study of mental illnesses to date finds five major disorders may not look much alike but they share some gene-based risks. The surprising discovery comes in the quest to unravel what causes psychiatric disorders and how to better diagnose and treat them.

The disorders — autism, attention deficit-hyperactivity disorder or ADHD, bipolar disorder, major depressive disorder and schizophrenia — are considered distinct problems. But findings published online Wednesday suggest they're related in some way.

"These disorders that we thought of as quite different may not have such sharp boundaries," said Dr. Jordan Smoller of Massachusetts General Hospital, one of the lead researchers for the international study appearing in The Lancet.

via Huge study: 5 mental disorders share genetic links

Consent ALWAYS Matters: consent and #rape

From an article about the outrageous idiocy and cover-up attempts surrounding the rape of a female college sophomore in NC, some words from the outspoken victim  -

 

via jezebel.com

Gambill recently told The Daily Tar Heel and a variety of other outlets about her traumatic experience reporting her assault to the administration. From a December 5th, 2012 article:

"It's incredibly clear that those people had no idea what sexual assault is, what consent is," said Landen Gambill, a sophomore whose assault case was processed by interim procedures.

 

The issue here is CONSENT. We in the BDSM community know all about the importance of mutual consent and how consent alters BDSM from potential assault into potential bliss.

In The Truth About Sex --both volumes, in fact-- I discuss my theories about the central emotional role that consent plays not just in BDSM but in ALL TYPES OF SEX AND EROTICISM.

In a nutshell: consent always matters.  Whether it's someone touching you, kissing you, fucking you or whipping you, unless there is informed mutual consent, any and all of it may feel traumatic if you didn't want it to happen.   When violence, threats, coercion or manipulation enter into it, the growing sense of victimization can escalate to sheer terror.

I wish Gambill good luck in her battle against the ignorance displayed by those handling her case. She's fighting an entire system of bad assumptions about sex and my heart truly goes out to her.  I think she's heroic.

Today is Brought to you by the Permanently Erect Penis

Alligators use bizarre, permanently erect penises that pop out of their bodies and are sucked back in just as quickly. CREDIT: YouTube View full size image

Unlike many other reptiles and mammals, alligators sport permanently erect penises that hide inside their bodies, new research reveals.

The reptiles sport fully erect penises made of tough, fibrous tissue that shoot out of their bodies and get pulled back in just as quickly, according to the study, which is detailed in the March issue of the journal Anatomical Record.

"It is really interesting and really bizarre, very different from anything we've seen in vertebrates," said study author Diane Kelly, an anatomist at the University of Massachusetts.

via www.livescience.com

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Fascinating Factoid for February

Rampantly promiscuous squirrels make a nutty appearance in The Truth About Sex 

Secret life of a dad in diapers

I was doing a vanity search for something *completely* different when this popped up (with my name at the end).   They didn't interview me, so they must have found that comment in Different Loving . 

 

Really delighted to read this guy's story.  What amazing bravery!

 

 

He’s a husband, dad, factory foreman, loves rugby and braais and wears a nappy under his jeans.

Jan-Hendrick Terblanche, aka Poopoo-nappy, sounds like a typical Boer.

But this 40-year-old is an infantilist – a grown-up who chooses to escape to a baby world where he feels emotionally safe.

“When I don’t [wear my nappy] I get aggressive. To calm down, I put on a nappy and suck a dummy until I fall asleep,” he told the Daily Voice in an exclusive interview.

Locally, adult baby syndrome is still under wraps, which is why Jan-Hendrick started his own website.

via www.iol.co.za

Bag Drops in Dubai (state-of-the-art safe-sex service)

If you get lucky in Dubai and don't have a rubber in your pocket,  Durex will deliver your bag door-to-door.  Ingenious new service and marketing campaign for international businesspeople, isn't it?  Check out their multi-media promotional site:   Durex - SOS Condoms

Big Fat Hypocrite Turns Out to Be Big Fat Hypocrite. What's for dinner?

Well, yah.  Ho hum.   I'm counting on regular readers to be as jaded as me about stories of anti-abortionists having abortions and anti-gay'ist cruising men's rooms and gay conversionists being gay rapists.

Could someone please put American society out of its misery and send these sociopaths  to a maximum security facility somewhere so they can all just lie to each other and quit fucking up the sane-i-verse?

 

NASHVILLE, Tenn. — Republican U.S. Rep. Scott DesJarlais of Tennessee testified during divorce proceedings that he and his former wife made a "mutual" decision for her to have two abortions, according to divorce transcripts released Thursday.

via Scott DesJarlais Abortion Scandal: Congressman's Wife Had 2 Abortions, Court Transcripts Say

Transgender Day of Remembrance November 20th: honoring victims

from my friend Jane Fae, an activist in the UK working hard on on these issues, a detailed brief on the upcoming international day of mourning for victims of anti-trans hate crimes.

 

On Tuesday 20 November thousands of members of the Trans community and their supporters will gather together at locations around the globe for the Transgender Day of Remembrance  (TDoR).  They will do so to commemorate the hundreds of individuals murdered each year simply for being transgender.

For a background briefing on the day itself, together with outline details of events in the UK and contact details for further information, go to http://janefae.wordpress.com/2012/11/14/background-information-transgender-day-of-remembrance/ .

The New York Times Does Erotic Spanking

When Different Loving came out in 1993, the New York Times adamantly refused to review the book or attend the press-laden book signing party that Random House held at an SM club because, well, as they snootily implied to our bodaciously brave publicist, Sharyn, they were the New York Times and BDSMers were perverts.   End of story. 

Yesterday my oldest scene friend emailed me the link to this candid confession by a spanking fetishist, A Spanking Fetish Is Not Revealed Easily,  just published in the "modern love" section of the Times.

Wow.  Kind of amazing we've come this far.  And yet...Kind of frustrating we haven't gone further.   I mean it's very sweet that a young woman who is fearful of rejection chronicles her anxiety and ultimate relief in coming out to her lover.   I heart her. 

Still,  I hope one day the Times will publish articles by people who have overcome all their shame and anxiety and can speak powerfully and meaningfully to the experience of BDSM, and not just their fears about being sexually different.   Then I'll feel like we're having the kind of public dialogues about kink we should be having.

 

 

For your health: 5 Hour Energy drink linked to miscarriage

STOP DRINKING THIS CRAP.

Thank you.  I feel better now.

 

You know those little vials of who-knows-what that TV bills as a healthier alternative to energy drinks. Turns out they might make you die. Or to be more specific, the flavored energy shot "has been mentioned in some 90 filings with the F.D.A., including more than 30 that involved serious or life-threatening injuries like heart attacks, convulsions and, in one case, a spontaneous abortion," according to a New York Times investigation. 

via Five-Hour Energy Linked to Heart Attacks, 'Spontaneous Abortion'

 

(I had to look it up: spontaneous abortion is doctor speak for a miscarriage)

Ireland reminds us that "pro-life" can mean death to the mother

Do you remember the world before legalized abortion? Women dying because of botched abortions in sleazy clinics, because they tried to abort on their own, and because they couldn't legally terminate a fatal pregnancy?    That's what the end of choice would mean to us:  a lot of women dying.    Just as this woman died in Ireland.

 

DUBLIN (AP) — The debate over legalizing abortion in Ireland flared Wednesday after the government confirmed that a woman in the midst of a miscarriage was refused an abortion and died in an Irish hospital after suffering from blood poisoning.

Prime Minister Enda Kenny said he was awaiting findings from three investigations into the death of Savita Halappanavar, a 31-year-old Indian woman who was 17 weeks pregnant. Her case highlighted the legal limbo in which pregnant women facing severe health problems can find themselves in predominantly Catholic Ireland.

via news.yahoo.com

Intravaginal Massage: not for chiropracters, please

The intravaginal massage can be very helpful to women in their first pregnancy. You really don't need anyone else to do it for you (unless you want him/her to do it).    But if someone wants to charge you for it while pretending it's a wellness procedure, call the cops.

 

A Washington State chiropractor is accused of sexually violating three female patients.

Greg Summers, founder of Summers Chiropractic and Massage in Federal Way, Wash. had his medical license suspended this week after being charged with sexual contact with three female patients and with changing the medical records of a patient, according to MyNorthwest.com.

Summers allegedly told two of his patients that "intravaginal massage," would benefit them because of the "invasion of their personal body space" that occurred when the chiropractor inserted his fingers in their genitals.

via Greg Summers, Chiropractor, Has License Suspended Over 'Intravaginal Massage' Allegations

Pastor Who "Converted" Gays Charged With Raping Clients

Bitterly disgusting on every level.  Converters are quacks whose ministries are based on greed and ideology.  The law should go after these charlatans for advertising services that NO ONE can deliver.  They are some of the most cruel and harmful people in the anti-sex communities.

 

An Isanti County pastor who participated in a ministry devoted to helping people put their homosexuality behind them has been charged with sexually assaulting two men he was counseling.

Lakeside Christian Church's senior pastor, the Rev. Ryan J. Muehlhauser, 55, of Cambridge, appeared in court Tuesday on eight felony counts of fourth-degree criminal sexual conduct and remains free pending another hearing next month.

Muehlhauser also was a counselor through Robbinsdale-based Outpost Ministries, whose website says it was founded more than 30 years ago to help men and women "break away from gay life" and declares that "all homosexual behavior is sin."

 

via Isanti County pastor charged with sex assaults on men he was counseling | StarTribune.com

The Media Prank is the Message

 

Today in adventures in television news: graphics gone wrong. An ABC affiliate in Denver, Colo., said it was a “mistake” to run an image of Paula Broadwell’s David Petraeus biography that listed the title as “All Up In My Snatch” during a story on the former CIA director’s extramarital affair.

via "ABC affiliate calls Paula Broadwell memo “All Up In My Snatch”, tpmdc.talkingpointsmemo.com

The World's Scariest Penis

The penis of a Callosobruchus maculatus beetle (Photo credit: Wikimedia Commons)

Male bruchid beetles, also known as cowpea weevils, have spines on their penises that puncture the female reproductive tract during mating, causing significant internal damage to females.

According to an article in the journal Behavioral Ecology, the sex is so unpleasant that the females are known to kick their mates off them to make the deed as quick as possible.

via Bruchid Beetle's Penis: 'Terrifying' Organ Useful For Sexual Selection, Scientists Say/huffingtonpost.com

 

Why more men should piss on pregnancy sticks

If you haven't already heard of this viral news,  you should.  It's the true story of a guy who peed on a pregnancy stick and laughed when it showed he was pregnant -- until people on Reddit said it could mean he had cancer!! 

Here is the follow up toon ....

 

via Man Takes Pregnancy Test, Finds Out He Has Testicular Cancer: Reports

Petraeus' career goes down in flames over adultery

Whether you like or loathe Petraeus, doesn't it seem weirdly 19th century that military careers are still being ruined by adultery? I realize they adhere to higher standards than civilians but in the 21st century this standard seems very out of date.

 

CIA Director David Petraeus has resigned, Director of National Intelligence James Clapper said in a written statement Friday. The former Army general, who rocketed to global prominence as the man in charge of the "surge" in Iraq, quit over an extramarital affair, MSNBC reported.

 

 

via CIA chief Petraeus resigns, reportedly over affair

 

Does anti-choice = anti-Bible? (abortion politics)

Nowadays, you can't swing an IUD around without it smacking a pro-life evangelical Christian right in the bloody fetus protest sign. But did you know that all of these eternal Biblical truths religious conservatives trot out in making their argument that life begins at conception are actually at odds with much more reasonable, pro choice stuff in the Bible? And did you know that until until about 30 years ago, many prominent American evangelicals believed that life didn't begin until birth?

 

via Conservative Christians Conveniently Ignore All the Pro-Choice Passages in the Bible/Jezebel.com